As a parent, you want to support your daughter’s health—physically, emotionally, and mentally—through every stage of her development. One of the milestones that may raise questions is when to schedule her first OBGYN visit. Is it based on age? A specific concern? What if she’s nervous or reluctant?
Here’s what you need to know about when and why to introduce your teen to gynecologic care—and how to make the experience a positive one.
The Recommended Age for a First Visit
The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) recommends that girls have their first gynecologic visit between the ages of 13 and 15. This visit is usually focused on education, prevention, and building a trusted relationship with a women’s health provider. Pelvic exams are not recommended until age 21 unless there is a specific medical reason or symptoms.
For many teens, the first appointment is simply a conversation. It’s an opportunity to:
- Discuss normal development, periods, and what to expect during puberty
- Address concerns about irregular cycles, cramps, or heavy bleeding
- Talk about healthy habits, like hygiene, exercise, and emotional well-being
- Ask questions about sexuality, relationships, and birth control in a safe, confidential space
- Begin a relationship with a provider that specializes in women’s bodies. This could include doctors, nurse practitioners, physician assistants, or a nurse midwife.
When to Schedule Sooner
You don’t have to wait until age 15 if there’s a concern earlier. Schedule a visit if your daughter:
- Hasn’t started her period by age 15
- Has very painful, heavy, or irregular periods
- Experiences vaginal discomfort, itching, or unusual discharge
- Is sexually active or considering becoming sexually active
- Needs the HPV vaccine (recommended starting at age 11 or 12)
- Has questions or worries she might not feel comfortable discussing with a parent
Helping Her Feel Comfortable
It’s completely normal for a teen to feel anxious about this first appointment. Our team can ease the process by:
- Choosing a provider who works more often with teens
- Letting your daughter know she can ask questions and set boundaries
- Explaining that the visit doesn’t always involve an exam—most early visits are just a conversation
- Offering to be in the room (or wait outside) based on her comfort level
The goal is to help her feel supported, respected, and in control of her health.
Starting on the Path of Lifelong Wellness
The first OBGYN visit isn’t just a medical milestone—it’s a step toward lifelong body confidence and wellness. By encouraging open conversations about health and development, you’re giving your daughter the tools she needs to care for herself now and into the future.
Our team is your women’s health resource and we are here for you and your daughter.
Reviewed by physician assistant Becky Roverud, OBGYN West, and nurse practitioner Bethany Hjelle, Oakdale OBGYN.