If you’re the parent of a girl aged roughly 9 to 12, also known as a ‘tween, understanding some of the changes you and she can expect as she enters puberty may provide guidance in navigating this transitional phase. Here are some things to keep in mind:
Her first period: While girls can get their first period anywhere from 10 to 15 years of age, the first time can vary widely. Prepare your daughter for this milestone by talking about period hygiene and options that might include pads, tampons, menstrual cups or underwear, how to track her period month to month, and how to manage painful periods. Familiarize yourself with newer, safe options that have come on the market in recent years.
Breasts: Breasts often develop before your tween gets her first period and will vary in size and shape compared to her peers. Assure her that breast growth and diversity is a normal part of growing up and help her choose supportive bras that fit well, and offer comfort.
Body changes: In addition to growing breasts and getting her period, other physical changes in your tween can range from growing pubic and body hair, to acne. Support your daughter by teaching her about self-care to manage these changes and promote self-confidence.
Emotional changes: Fluctuating hormones at this time can be interesting (for all). Expect mood swings, emotional sensitivity and irritability along with joy and cuddles. Use this time to talk with her about expressing her feelings openly. Be patient and supportive (easier said than done).
Body positivity: In this tricky time of social media and endless comparisons, help your daughter develop a positive body image by emphasizing her strengths, talents and encouraging her to explore wide-ranging interests. Focus on her inner qualities rather than external appearance, and provide reassurance during moments of self-doubt.
Sex education: Schools will address sex education but it’s great to start at home. Finding an appropriate time to talk about sex and related topics will vary parent to parent, family to family. Topics to cover might include talk about reproductive health (GYN), periods, birth control, sexually transmitted infections, and consent. Use age-appropriate language and materials, and encourage open dialogue about sexuality and relationships.
Privacy and boundaries: Respect your daughter’s privacy and boundaries while also ensuring her safety. Discuss the importance of setting boundaries in relationships and empower her to assert herself in uncomfortable situations.
Role Modeling: Parents can set a positive example by promoting healthy habits and attitudes toward puberty, reproductive health, and sexually. Share your own experiences and feelings about puberty to foster an environment of trust and support.
Professional Support: Our team of women’s health specialists are here to support you if you have concerns about your tween’s development or if she experiences significant physical or emotional distress. We’re here to help and be a resource for you.